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My dad’s family love comparing people to other family members, constantly saying that such and such has this cousins smile or the family nose. No one ever said I looked like anyone in my family and I assumed that people would be insulted to be compared to me in looks. Once someone said, I guess you look more like your mum. At this time, my mum was overweight and I got the strong impression that I was being likened to her only because of my weight, because I actually look much more like my dad.
I once had an awkward moment at a work training day where everyone in the group had to introduce themselves and then say which celebrity they most get compared to. Never mind that I hate those stupid ‘get to know you’ things with a passion, but I just didn’t have anything to say. I was at my biggest and I just couldn’t think of anyone to say without looking like an idiot. Was I supposed to just say a famous woman who is fat, because at that time I felt like that was all people saw in me? I panicked and just didn’t answer the question. The trainer kept pushing it and eventually left me alone when she noticed I had gone bright red and was very flustered.
The thing is, I couldn’t care less if I was compared to someone as gorgeous as Christina Ricci or even if it was a less flattering comparison. It was just nice to feel seen for once. Since I have lost weight it feels like the cloak of invisibility I have been wearing my whole life has been lifted. It has been a weird experience as I get used to people striking up a conversation with me in the elevator or holding the door open for me or even just looking me in the eye when we speak. I actually find it quite terrifying as I am quite shy, but I am slowly getting used to being seen for the first time in my life.