Well not the Fat Bridesmaid, blogger extraordinaire, but I have been asked to be a bridesmaid in 2012. My younger brother proposed to his girlfriend while they were on holidays in Peru over Christmas and yesterday she asked me to be a bridesmaid. They aren't getting married until March next year, but I am still very excited.
I have only been a bridesmaid one other time and it was for my step-mum. She said for me to just find a dress in brown that matched their river-front wedding theme. I was at close to my biggest at the time (about 120 kilos) and couldn't find a dress anywhere. About a month before the wedding I completely panicked and ended up asking my mum for help in getting a dress made. She found a tailor in her area who made me a dress but the whole experience was pretty bad. The dress-maker didn't seem to think someone my size should have a tight bodice and she made it way too big. She also added straps when it was supposed to be strapless and she used the wrong side of the fabric and I ended up with this awful shiny satin dress. I couldn't really complain because while this was happening the dress-maker had a family tragedy and I obviously didn't want to make things worse for her. I was struggling with confidence as it was and that dress did not help the situation. Not an experience I want to repeat.
A few of my bigger girlfriends have told me some horror stories (that are much worse than mine) about being a bridesmaid. It can be a pretty traumatic experience for those of us that are bigger, from weight gain, unflattering dresses, catty bridal parties, cruel photographers and downright nasty brides. The great thing is that I know for sure that my (almost) sister-in-law would have asked me to be in her wedding party if I still weighed 130 kilos. Even though she is a petite little thing herself, she is completely oblivious to size and wouldn't care either way if I was a size 10 or a size 26.
So I don't feel like I have to panic and furiously diet so that I'm not the 'fat bridesmaid'. Though, having seen the other bridesmaids, even if I lost 20 kilos I would still be the fat bridesmaid... If the wedding was tomorrow, I would feel comfortable being a bridesmaid at the size I am now. That is not to say that I won't use the wedding as a little motivation to keep my weight loss efforts up of course!